How to Help a Child Repair Communication Breakdown

“Communication Breakdown” is what we call it when something goes wrong in a conversation and there is a misunderstanding.  Our communication can break down for a number of reasons but most of the time, we are able to clarify the confusion and keep going.

Children with communication challenges or social interaction difficulties may have trouble with this.  They may not recognize that the communication has broken down.  Or they may not know how to get it back on track once they’ve lost the thread.

We can help children learn to recognize and repair the communication by teaching them this skill directly.

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Repairing Communication Breakdowns Therapy Kit

Repairing Communication Breakdowns Kit

Training Video and Kit for Teaching a Child to Recognize and Repair Communication Breakdowns

Repairing Communication Breakdowns
Activity One: Introduction

  • Ask students what “communication breakdown” means and what they normally do when it happens.  Ask for some common reasons that communication breakdowns happen.

Repairing Communication Breakdowns
Activity Two: Outline Rules for Standard Behavior

  • Students talk first about how to recognize when a communication breakdown has occurred.  List out the signs that someone is confused.
  • Next, outline several strategies that the students can use when a breakdown occurs.  Have the students come up with as many ideas as they can and then add your own (see above)

Repairing Communication Breakdowns
Activity Three: Practice

  • Start with recognizing pictures of people as confused or not.  When the students are able to do this in pictures, give them a buzzer (or the buzzer app on your smart phone or tablet) and tell them to buzz in whenever they notice that you look confused.  Hold a small conversation and unexpectedly look confused to help them recognize it.  Stay on this step until they can do it (may be several sessions)
  • Analyze social scenarios to determine when a communication breakdown has occurred.  Use activities that target topic maintenance to identify when someone says something that doesn’t make sense with what was already said.  Once the student can do this with given situations, hold a conversation with the student and unexpectedly say something completely off topic to indicate the communication breakdown and have the students buzz in to indicate they heard it.  Stay on this step until able to do this.
  • Have students purposefully practice each communication breakdown strategy in a staged conversation (use scripts if needed).
  • During normal conversation, stop students when you didn’t understand something and ask them which strategy would be best to try to fix the breakdown.
  • Once the student can demonstrate all strategies on command and can list of the strategies on command, start pointing out opportunities in normal conversation when a breakdown occurred and help the student repair it.

Repairing Communication Breakdowns
Activity Four: Assign Homework

  • At the end of each session, assign the student to write one journal entry explaining a time that he practiced the skill from that day or a time that communication broke down and he wasn’t able to fix it.

Repairing Communication Breakdowns
Activity Five: Review During Next Session

  • During the next session, have the students read their journal entries and discuss what went well and troubleshoot what went wrong as a group.

Additional Resources for Teaching a Child to Repair Communication Breakdowns:

Repairing Communication Breakdowns Therapy Kit

Repairing Communication Breakdowns Kit

Training Video and Kit for Teaching a Child to Recognize and Repair Communication Breakdowns

Social Skills Therapy Course

Social Skills Therapy Course

How to Teach Social Communication Skills to Children and Teens

Carrie Clark, Speech-Language Pathologist

About the Author: Carrie Clark, MA CCC-SLP

Hi, I’m Carrie! I’m a speech-language pathologist from Columbia, Missouri, USA. I’ve worked with children and teenagers of all ages in schools, preschools, and even my own private practice. I love digging through the research on speech and language topics and breaking it down into step-by-step plans for my followers.

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